FY, read you post again after I came home… All text exchange with H was while I was still at work. And it already intense and stressful enough, that I lost my mind for a minute, LOL. I think by buying the condo I pretty much put H in a difficult position, so I think it would do no good in terms of flirting. I think he feels inadequate again… I’m almost positive about it, because as nice guy as he is (according to all the people who know him), he never congratulated me for my new car or a condo. This is not like him. If I mean nothing in his life, if I’m just an average person helping him with his business and other stuff, he would be the first one to say “congratulations on your new car and your new condo”. I think there is a different story behind all of these…

So, if he felt like approaching me at some point and making some “ways” with the lipstick gift, etc… I think I spoiled it by buying an expensive car and a condo on my own. However, you have a good point, what is it going to do if I rock the boat... And it seems that this is what is about to happen here…

Just noticed a lot of typos in my previous post… Sorry…

I sent a text back to H in response to his last question about the condo not being finished or decorated: “No, it finished and decorated…” Will see what his response will be… There is nothing so far… but I it is 2 hours difference in time zones… so he might be asleep…

HaWho, I get your 2 cents. And thanks for thinking of me! I always appreciate any advice and any thoughts. I’m not sure if I want to let him know that the door is still open… I just don’t think he can comprehend it at this time (he might be approaching the end of his journey, but he is also a very stubborn man…) I just want to let him know that he cannot walk over me without any consequences… He has to sacrifice something to get the “perfect” life and his “perfect, harmonious relationship” he wants! I still think he is a good man inside… and worth it… But… I don’t want to hope for someone who has no desire to have me in his life.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state