Vge you sound like an amazing person that copes wonderfully with all the "mess" in you life. I'm glad your treatment is going well I hope you and your sons can find happiness again soon.
Finding out you H had an affair with thee OW so long ago must have been hard, but it's socking to me why would a woman marry a man that cheated on his wife with her? Maybe it's not your forgiveness she wanted but to get it off her chest so that she stops worrying about it.
Take care of yourself and your family
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
