Should I not go back to MC with her? We have an appt on Thursday...
The DB rule is to do what works. Do you feel the MC is helping your M at this point? (note: this is not the same as "are you hoping it will")
If your sessions are filled with her explaining why the marriage is not salvageable, and why she's triple done, then does it seem like focusing on that is going to help?
There's a reason DB teaches us to avoid relationship talks! They can make things worse.
Usually when a spouse wants out badly, MC (if they go) is just a way for them to say they "tried".
Look, D doesn't happen overnight. It's going to take time for her to jump through all the hoops. It's also going to take time for her feelings for you to change, but they can change. (they already changed once, right?)
You need to buy as much time as you can right now.
Follow Cali's advice and stay out of her way when she is spewing. What ever you do, don't argue with her! You have to be the calm, strong, steady person right now. I know it seems hopeless at the moment, but soon you will be doing better.
Where are you in DR?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
