I think my wife is in MLC and it seems hopeless

[SBJ]

I understand the need to breath and slow down,but she's trying to do a world record pace D. Just had a R talk that ended poorly. It's all my fault because I was selfish sexually when she was hurting years ago.

She is saying we should use the same attorney so we can save $$$. It's like she is only worried about the cost and how she'd look in a messy D. How sad.

How long does detachment take and how long to feel better. The more she talks the less I feel like we can save this thing we call a M. She is just so cold to me and its like she's trading me in for something else. She still claims there's no one else, but I worry. I don't want her hurt or my children hurt.