Incase any of you guys are reading my thread. Apologies i havnt been participating with the newcomers. I just find it triggers me, making me re-live all the lies and betrayal over and over again. Which puts me in a mood.

Plus i am not so far along to be able to give sound advice. Although to the newcomers you may read my thread and if you find similarities with your sich maybe you can learn from the mistakes i've made.

I think in terms of letting go. Im getting better, it takes conscious effort to not get pulled back, i would do well for a few weeks then blow it when the STBX does something or text that gets to me. Im more conscious of it now and am able to recognise it as a trigger and just find some way to take a time out or do something worthwhile. It does a world of wonders but does take conscious effort.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.