Sorry to hijack here Kdvor but Brubeck: I thought that when she tried to give you her babysitting money. I think her issues with money and wanting to be independent center there.
When my h spews at me, I know his history well enough to see he's talking to his mom. Your wife, I think, is in the same boat w/using you to talk/stand up to her authority figure. That anger needs to burn itself out.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
