My thoughts on your meet up w/your xh probably are a bit different than those posted. Your xh: 1)most likely was curious about you and was doing a comparison between you and the OW (now wife) before he married her; 2) he wanted to see if you were still there for him and was doing a temp check to see how you would react around him; and 3)he hoped that you two could be good friends after all of this time.
He may even go so far as to tell others that he and his xw are on very good terms and that there are no hard feelings between the two of you. He may also have wanted to alleviate any guilt that he had over what he had done to you and yes he may even have been remorseful.
However, it's difficult to say what was actually going through his mind. He could very well have met up w/you to say a final goodbye to all he left behind (in his mind) and was happy to see that you are doing well which meant closure to him on that part of his life.
I'm sorry about the news and grieve as long as you need to. Time will tell on whether he stays w/his new wife or not...but whatever happens, continue moving forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
