A big, big red flag in your last post is you agreeing to basically watch your kid for 1 night a week.
95% of of the time, a divorce settlement will codify the status quo. That is why it is so important to set the status quo of you being a 50%+ parent to the extent your work schedule allows.
However, you have agreed that you are a 1-night a week parent. God forbid you even put this in writing where she can use it against you. This is a huge mistake! If she has this in writing, you need to have a lot more things in writing to refute that you are a 1-evening a week parent. And absolutely stop asking your wife for help with your D. You can figure out how to brush her hair on your own.
You need to document being a 50% parent. There is no point arguing with your wife over who will add the vitamin nonsense to your daughters water. But you need to be present with your D most days, in the home, or much preferably at the library or the park playing pokemon, etc. And then write all of this down in your daily custody journal!
Finally, promise me that you will re-read this thread in a year. Because I promise you that you will not recognize the guy writing this, nor understand how he could have put up with such nonsense. Its time to pull the plug on this situation, and you should push your lawyers so you do it first.
