Just a coda to my too long story - I am divorced now as of April 1, perhaps a fitting date, moved into an apartment in the little town here, where I have guy friends, the kids are with ex, but I seem them for dinner maybe once a week, I have a GF, still get to stay with xMIL when in the US for work, am moderately happy in general, and truly happy to no longer have to deal with xW's negativity. I have contact, business only, with ex maybe once per month.
Divorce, while sad, was a finally reasonable solution, and I have come out on the other side, where there is a new life and freedom, really a not bad place.
Best of luck to you all - you have been good friends - thank you -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
