Like I said, when we decided to go have a beer that initial date, I didn't expect us to fall quickly.
Fair. But you did put yourselves into the position for that. At a time when both of you were vulnerable to an unhealthy relationship.
Originally Posted By: CRW
my GAL has never been stronger. (regarding GAL, i had to have surgery on my other knee as well, so my whole summer has been kinda limited, which sucked!)
I want to be clear that by GAL, I dont just mean going to the gym. I mean the activities you are doing to help you break out of your codependent tendencies. For example, Before I met my current partner, I had one activity I do weekly and a second I do twice a month. Every bone in my body told me once I started dating again that I should stop these to spend more time 'as a couple'. But I realized that these were things I needed to continue to do for me to fill voids in my being that I wouldnt (and shouldnt) expect a significant other to fill. Quitting those events would put too much pressure on the relationship to fill those holes.
So Im asking you about your GAL. What did you do to 'date yourself' during your separation? How have you maintained that self-sufficience in this new relationship?
