Hang in there brother. I'm about a month into this and I see many familiar things in your story.
You just have to be patient. I find that to be the hardest part. We want answers now but unfortunately they're not coming right now.
One piece of advise that I received almost immediately from this board is that you need to slow her down and not help her with process of divorcing you. My wife told me she didn't love me and wanted a divorce yet she had no idea where and how she would live without me. I think she thought I would help her with all of this.
Draw a line and tell her you've been blindsided and you haven't been able to process this. Then detach. Focus on yourself and your children.
I know how hard this is. I feel it too. My mind goes from loving her and wanting her to change her mind to thinking she's right and she's doing both of us a favor. The one thing everyone keeps saying is "patience". I'm trying. I think you need some too.
