There's one other thing that is nagging at me now too. The other wife lied to her family about me in order to get them to agree to the marriage. She knew the truth, so it's not that my husband hid it from her, but she made out our relationship to be a lot more "casual" and "part-time" than it is. She was able to pull it off because there just happen to be a lot of such relationships in the community and the people generally don't respect the wives that much in those kinds of relationships, but ours isn't and never was one of those kinds of relationships. She did this from her own mind and my husband only found out about it later, although he has let it slide for now because it would create problems for her to force her to tell the truth. The fact that I am away at the moment only serves to make the lie seem more the truth. He does seem a bit afraid of me meeting them too as he wanted me to hide away when they came to visit but I put my foot down about that and he relented completely, but sooner or later I will meet them and there is no way I will allow this lie to continue because it could have bad consequences for me in the future. I just know that doing so either will make her look bad or she might even tell them that my husband lied to her about us to begin with and try to pin the blame for the lie on him rather than admit it was her idea. I just can't be responsible for other people's lies when they make me look like less than a respectable wife. I can imagine things her family might say in a conversation with me that I could use to open the topic that would allow me to casually let the truth be known. And I'll play stupid that I knew she lied. And let the chips fall where they may because I have to protect my own reputation first.
