Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[Surfer]

Everytime he mentions D, remember that you have the gift of at least 6 months.

Excellent. Keep this in mind. This is not a fast process even if he goes that way!!!

Also remember this. Often the WS uses the D word to pull your strings. I think they want to know you care. I think they are trying to get your attention - like a toddler does.

Try thinking of your reconciliation/divorce conversation that way perhaps? I had many of these conversations late at night with my W and it screws with your head. I stopped and started just going to sleep (you have made me remember). Why, because it was just going round and round in circles. Or she was. She was basically playing "Why Don't You Yes But" (google it if you are not aware). You have to exit the game and sleep.

Perhaps sleep deprivation and attachment have made you feel like this. You clearly love him very much and are struggling to break away to the extent that might make it easier on you. It's just a phase though I am sure. I have done this before lot's (just look at my thread - I read like a nutter!!!).

Get some rest, put the divorce part of the conversation right to the back of your mind. Focus on the reconciliation part and detach to the point you are happy either way. Remember that "Truly Blessed" feeling. Get back there.

No need to emotionally react to his words (because it's probably BS).

Surfer.