Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

SH,

Thanks for the post.

either or

We either 'think' or 'feel'. Not both.

You feel what could happen? But if it does not you will be okay?

Crikey - I have slept since then....LoL. I feel we could reconcile but if we don't I will be happy. I am happy either way. Really happy. So it's a 'nice to have' - in comparison to what it was (like we all did/do, I felt like my world was falling apart - its not).

What is "it" that you want to be okay and happy if "it" does not happen?

It is reconciliation.

What leads to detachment?

Independence and being personally content and happy.

I did get your point about fear of loss being a product of interdependency, although there are appropriate habits to overcome the fear...which is not real...but created in our own mind.

Agreed.

What choices do you want to make?

1.Continue to remain detached (inc. GAL, not chasing etc)
2.Be the best version of me (inc. communicating effectively and kindly with my W)
3.Continue to be content and happy

Surfer.