Cherry. He's gone, but the drama has not

[Cherry]

Thank you guys, I actually got a fair bit of sleep last night for the first time in a while. I've took the day off as per hospital guidance to rest. And my mom has took the day off work so she can drive over and take S out for the day and give me and mil some proper rest. Neither of us has got much the last couple days, so this will help. And this is me and my 180 actually allowing my parents in and taking advantage of the support.

I have done a lot of reading around suicidal people the past couple days, not necessarily help for me. But I've found that it's another skill to have in my belt. Luckily, much like db, there's a lot of validation involved, and a lot of kindly speaking and letting them own their feelings, and not playing down how they feel. There was a couple of none db conversations and texts sent to him. None telling him to come back to the m, but just ones letting him know that he is very much loved and needed. Maybe this is a cry for help, or maybe it's genuine. Idk. But some of my pride had to be put aside and treated as a genuine suicidal person. But I must reiterate and no point have I told him that he has to come back to the m or the home. Just I want him safe and well, especially for the children's sake.

He has made the statement "in a few days I'll be gone", a few day it's his bday, this concerns me. He has thrown out the support of the police, so now the last resort will be the mental health team. What they can do I'm not sure. But I know that I need to do everything in my power, and these will be the last people.

But I am going to take some time to care for me too today. I shall get some rest, maybe pamper myself a tad. But most importantly get some rest from all responsibilities, and be a bit selfish. Knowing that S is happy, and having fun. He gets so so excited when he sees my parents, and they do spoil him and run riot with him. So that will be good for him, I know they also want to help me in anyway, and this will be a big help. I am quite protective of S, there's only really my parents and mil that I feel completely safe and satisfied.

Do you think I should reach out to him in a kind but subtle way? I know if I was fully following db I wouldn't and I'd be going dark on him, but this cry for attention and the suicidal threats have me thinking maybe I need a different approach?!