Thanks SH. It's so tricky with db and knowing wether to take this as trying to grab attention as not much else has managed to get one so far, or to take the risk and take it as someone being serious. He told me when I met him that he had suicidal thoughts in the past and had been in a very dark place. He apologised to his mom for a whole load of issues in her life that haven't been his problem at all. I know he needs to be willing to get help. He's said himself that he doesn't have that urge to fight for himself anymore.
All I can do is leave it to him and the professionals and hope he finds the drive in himself, for the sake of his children.
And thank you for the quote SH. I've found more strength in me the last couple days I didn't even know I had.
The last section of DR for the depressed spouse says to do exactly what you did. Now I would expect that you can pull back a bit, especially now that he moved out. you took it seriously...if it is an attention grab, then you are in a good place as you are not living together. I would encourage tat you do not worry if it is real or attention grab as that is for him to handle. You did exactly what you should have, Dbing and as loving caring person.
Be sure to care for yourself...worry and anxiety will not benefit you... easier said than done, I know. the good thing is you took action and you don't have to guess now.
My heart is just so heavy thinking of you having to take on this after all of it so far.
(((((Cherry)))))
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
