Fair points. A 'feeling' that you 'think', bit confused on the vernacular. It's either/or I would assume. Okay I feel this could happen. But if it doesn't so what. It is a nice to have. But I want to be more focused on being okay and happy if it doesn't. I feel that leads to detachment or visa versa. Fearing the loss of somebody is nevertheless fear and a product of interdependency or attachment.
Okay, Surfer. So I read this paragraph several times and I am not following. Hopefully you can clarify.
What is either or?
You feel what could happen? But if it does not you will be okay?
What is nice to have?
What is "it" that you want to be okay and happy if "it" does not happen?
What leads to detachment?
I did get your point about fear of loss being a product of interdependency, although there are appropriate habits to overcome the fear...which is not real...but created in our own mind.
Originally Posted By: Surfer
Okay, yes, it's not just her choice, you are correct. But if the does not change, it's definitely not happening (getting back together) so ultimately there's a lot riding on my W's actions. I could just walk right now or take other courses of action so yes, not just about her.
Surfer.
What choices do you want to make? Now as your respond here, do so with the choices that you want to make right now completely independent of anything she does or does not do.
Sorry to hit you with so many questions for the first part, but I really was not able to clarify what you were trying to say in response to my questions.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
