Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[PsySara]

Thanks Dory,
I think when WH moves here on Wednesday I can spend one night a week just doing what I want. I also am following MWD advice to "allow" my spouse to help out. When one takes on all the marital duties you effectively remove your spouse from feeling needed. Of course there is the added benefit of getting some time to mentally recharge however I want while WH takes care of the kids.

Today WH called and asked me to look at some links he sent me about houses for sale in the area. There was a lot of "we" talk and how "we" could have the house paid for in 10 years. My coach advised me to pay particular attention to this kind of talk as it shows WH's head has me and the family in his mental future. So I kept talking about the houses and actually avoided R talks. Frankly I need a break from M and R talks and it's nice to just have a normal conversation with hope in it. I also did some validation as he stayed late at work last night (gratis) to help out another doctor with a heavy call.

Yesterday the plumbers came and re-piped the entire house. It's a rental and has had sever plumbing issues since I rented. I had to keep the baby corralled all day and the house was a wreck when the left. So today I spent the day cleaning and minding the baby. The house is now immaculate and the kid's clothes washed and ironed for the week. I will be working 12 days straight so I prepped for that time. We just ate an early dinner as I plan to put the kids to bed a bit early. Soon I'll put them in their bathes, read their bed time story and cuddle them. I am blessed.