Hi, I would ignore the bit about NC for 2 months....what do they know! Yes, as soon as we S, there was distance involved. XH always commuted a few hours to work and stayed away a couple of nights a week. After a while we bought a property near his work as well as our main home. He got involved with OW who was a colleague and when we S, he decided to stay in our second property. Plus we have no kids together...so I think the odds for our M surviving perhaps weren't great from the off...

It's not at all painful to post about it actually - that's progress. Do try and lost the fear - I know it isn't easy. But truly, he is gone just now - so what else do you have to lose for the time-being? Leave him to his own devices and make plans just for you.

:)x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus