Found out about W affair, she does not know I know

[Steady9]

No infidelity yelling or any aggressive things. I would have said we have a mature relationship. Calm and a good team.

Three months ago after coming from a trip to see her family,and now I believe the OM, she weak she did not know about the future, the exact phrase that Sandi has used. For the next two months I was more present.

She went to visit family again but without our two kids this time. For ten days. After she returned and one week later I was able to learn that she was seeing a guy while there.

She does not know I know

I pulled back and started 180. I already work out so just do that a little more and started wearing nice cologne etc.

I confronted her when she was disrespectful, the small stuff I have learned she does this week. Stopped her from buying something large for the house , which I have never done before. This actually triggered her to send me a text about wondering if I was leaving her because of my facial expression and tone. I did. I respond to the text and when I came home an hour later I simply asked what that was about.

We had conversations where I listen and mirror but continue to say you can make your own choices.

She said she wants to stay.

Just don't believe her I guess since she wants her cake and eat it too probably. We have never had this much drama in our lives. She never cries and I mean never. So this is new for me to see and for her to do. I wonder if she is scared or only manipulating me.