Taking the first step...

[Coly23]

Thanks Sotto, I am such an idiot! I knew as soon as I sent it he wouldn't bother responding. Right that's it I'm dark again!

Thanks for filling me in on your sitch. That's a long time for you to have not seen or spoken with your xH. Has he moved away? I hope it's not to painful for you to discuss it?

Again I think my fear and anxiety drove me to send that text. I just feel so hopeless all the time and then I read on one your old threads when you were five weeks into being dark someone said that if after two months there is no contact then the marriage is considered dead. This was from the book about distancers and pursuers (sorry can't remember the name but it had Solo in the title). That made me freak out!