Nervous. D told W I was taking her and a friend to a local or hard today where they have lots of fall activities. W wants to go with us. Hoping I handle situation right.
I'm not trying to be insensitive. Can anyone tell me of a story similar to mine where the WW actually DID come back and they were able to R? Does it ever really happen?
It's not an identical situation but read ForeverYoung's threads. I found them very useful and inspiring.
There have been quite a few for the time I've been there. sandi, 25yrsmlc, puppydogtails, etc. and even me.
You wouldn't believe the amount of stories and kind of situations that others have been through. Trust me, there have been MANY more worse situations than your own.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Everything went good during our outing. Until the end when she asked for money. I said I couldn't. The. She got real quiet. She's still here but not talking to me.
W finally left ab 6:00 (usual time BF gets home). Before she left she wanted to talk ab D. I was standoffish. Answered her questions but didn't really volunteer anything. She threw me a curve ball though. Before she left she thanked me for letting her go today and called me Bigdaddy, her pet name for me. First time she's called me that since bomb dropped. Don't really know what to think or if I should think anything.
I think she appreciates that you are being civil about everything. Keep it up. It sounds like she is involved with a scary loser and sooner or later she may wake up and realize that she could lose something better, you.
I hope so but she seems pretty sure she's made up her mind. She did seem happy while she was here at the house though. Setting in the yard playing with our dogs. Spending time with the family. I'm praying.
I would advise to be friendly. To actively listen and respond. While you dont have to give a lot of details, I wouldnt recommend going so far as to be "standoffish".
Maybe standoffish was the wrong word. I want rude. Just didn't offer any new information ab the D. I was friendly all day. Even offered for her to stay for supper.
