Hi Coly, I think you did well too. Incidentally, this year I noticed that XH popped up the night before his B'day this year. Hadn't heard from him for a period of time and he gave me a non-update that I didn't really need. I was glad because it opened the door for a reply and an incidental HBD. I would have felt bad not to wish him HBD at all.

Of course you feel in a spin, having heard back from him. The thing to do now is be glad he replied, and move on from that positive little interaction. It could be five weeks or more before you and he are in touch again, so do put him on the back burner as soon as you can (not easy I know...) I find it easy/easier now, but I am over 2 years in here - and D'd!

He's like that wild rice that takes forever to cook, meanwhile, you have veg and all sorts bubbling away on the front hobs that need your attention....

Xx


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus