Found out about W affair, she does not know I know

[Steady9]

Found out one week ago. Found this site. Started 180 immediately and getting my balls back and opportunities to set boundaries. Stopped sex by saying I don't want to do that right now.

I wanted to get my balls back and show some manhood since I am a nice guy husband. I actually made some progress here I think. I did some work this summer to be more helpful and present. Emotional affair was probably going on for six months befor sex three months ago. It is a guy from her hometown which requires a flight across the US. She visited in June and then a couple of weeks ago.

She knows something is up. She is now working me. Only one week has gone by and she asked me yesterday if I was going to draw up papers....which I know was a test. My question is, she thinks her secret is safe today when should I let her know I know?



Married 15 two kids 14, 12