Hi Feyth, I'm going to chime in with the others here and say - don't worry about that. If he chooses to exit the M, that's up to him. If you choose to pick yourself up and move forward, that's up to you. And that's just what you have done.
I can recall my XH XW1 (!) saying he was having a real pity party a year or so after we S. She said she had no sympathy for him as she knew exactly what had happened...
Just keep the focus on you and your own plans, and leave him/them to it.
Great to hear about your GAL, and I have much respect for your handling of things xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Pinn, Esame, Ciluzen and Sotto, Thanks for your comments and feedback. I appreciate each and every one of you!
Is it bad that I secretly hope he may be hitting rock bottom? I don't want him to suffer, I just want him to wake up! I don't see how he can face his issues when people are coming to his rescue and coddling him and pointing their fingers at me, too. Sometimes I feel like this is the twilight zone.
I'm going to keep living life and having fun. Ciluzen, I LOLd with the image of him flinging poo with his monkey friends. I know i can't care what he or they think.... But like Cil mentioned, yes, i am making lemonade out the lemons he rolled my way.
Tomorrow, I'm running my marathon! Should be fun and you can betcha I'll be posting that on social media
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
Happy belated birthday Feyth! I agree you can't do right for doing wrong. They expect to keep us in a place of misery so they can look strong and invincible. I remember years ago being dumped by my then boyfriend after being together for seven years because he didn't see me as 'marriage material'. I was deviated but after a couple of months I picked myself up and stared dating again and that's when some of my so called friends turned on me and rallied around him because he needed them more than me! Fifteen years later he still lives in a room in the house of those friends and has just turned 50! Karma me thinks!!
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Coly, interesting scenario about your ex boyfriend. I wonder if they ever learn when there are always people there "supporting" them.
Ciluzen, Coly, Job, and Pinn- thanks for the good wishes! The run was brutal.... Just awful! There was torrential rain the entire time and I ended up running over 31 miles due to the minor detours I kept having to take because the path was completely flooded. Couple that with a bit of hypothermia and it made for a really tough time. A lot of runners ended up folding and cut their run short, but I REFUSED to give up. I don't quit.... Yes I was hating every second of it.. And yes it could have compromised my health, but I just needed to know that I had that grit in me. It's so much more than a long run to me!
Anyway, yep, per usual stbxh was on my mind a lot during the whole run and I got emotional over it. These physical endeavors have a habit of doing that to me!
Now I'm just resting and icing my legs. I can't move! Thanks to MWD and this site I've met another one of my stretch DB goals! Woohoo! What next?!!!
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
