Cherry, I am sorry you are also going through in-house separation. I know how it feels to be ignored and treated like persona non grata. However, in all fairness, aside from please, thank you and banter about the children, I treat my WW the same way. I don't know that woman anymore and anything I say is twisted to fit her narrative. I am just too cautious to make myself vulnerable to her anymore.
Update: So much has changed since the last time I posted. Changing Ls made a huge difference: I have fixed a day to move out. It is obviously tragic because I will lose 50% of my time with the children, but definitely a step forward and an opportunity for me to move on. I am wasting no time and will proceed with a Jewish writ of D that same day. I have no regrets about this. I would never have wanted a D, but now that she has demonstrated what a despicable conniving person she is, I would never ever take my WW back again. I have been told to judge actions and not the person, but I just can't see her in any other light. In-house separation purgatory is awful. I am very comfortable moving on in my life without my STBXW. There is still a journey towards the civil D. There is just not enough money in the pot. It will be financially painful for both of us.
WW sent another half-a$$ed apology - this time by text. It contained the usual blame-shifting and inability to truly take responsibility for her actions. I am so done with her. I haven't the slightest urge to reply to her, although I thought of many. It seems like I am becoming the WAH. DBer's, please do not judge me harshly for what I am feeling about my STBXW after all she has done.
One final thought to share: D is the opposite of pizza. Why, you may ask? Even when pizza is bad, it is still pretty good. However, even when D is good, it is still pretty bad.
I wish all Jewish DBers a very happy new year. Best to all.
