Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

SH

Fair points. A 'feeling' that you 'think', bit confused on the vernacular. It's either/or I would assume. Okay I feel this could happen. But if it doesn't so what. It is a nice to have. But I want to be more focused on being okay and happy if it doesn't. I feel that leads to detachment or visa versa. Fearing the loss of somebody is nevertheless fear and a product of interdependency or attachment.

Okay, yes, it's not just her choice, you are correct. But if the does not change, it's definitely not happening (getting back together) so ultimately there's a lot riding on my W's actions. I could just walk right now or take other courses of action so yes, not just about her.

Surfer.