Focus on Me and the Boys 9

[Painter]

Jim, you may have a lot of good arguments for moving. It certainly sounds like the financial situation would improve.

But have you looked at how you make decisions? Sometimes we make a decision just because we can't stand the uncertainty. That's not a good reason. I see you go back and forth very, very quickly on big life decisions. You say one thing one day and another the next, and you declare your decisions to the world.

Why did you contact STBX about this? Shouldn't you have discussed it with your L and made sure you have all your ducks in a row first, legally? Is this part of a drama cycle?

Something happens to us if we've had a lot of upheaval and drama in our lives, and very high stress. We can become addicted to the chemical cycle in the body that is induced by high stress. We don't know how to handle life when it's level and even, we get restless and bored, so we create situations that are high drama in order to release something. I know this because I have to fight this in my own life, it's a result of having an alcoholic parent and other dramatic events in my life early on.

I read quite a bit of emotion in the text exchange. You snipe at her several times in that conversation. I understand doing that, I have done that plenty to WH, but at least I'm able to recognize that I do it and admit to it. You're not going to get anywhere until you see these things.