Lost at the moment (2)

[lfm]

Hi all, it's been a while since I've been on the board, and apologize for that. Things have been crazy busy...

Things are progressing slowly with the divorce, although I find myself questioning if that's right decision today. Not sure why I feel down, just am.

As far as the new house, it's been great. I really like where it's at, the views from the house in all directions are amazing - lots of open farm land and a couple of lakes in the view... I will be sad to have to turn around and sell it as we progress with the divorce.

STBX is still in her fog, still seeing the OM so no updates there.

For newer members to the board I do need to say I mad a very, very big mistake about a month and a half ago. I got involved with another woman... Saw her for about a month before breaking it off. I realized that I still have pretty strong feelings for my STBX and that it wasn't fair to her to not be able to be fully committed to a relationship that I wasn't ready for. It hurt her pretty badly as she was developing feelings for me, but I was also very honest and up front about my situation and that I may not be ready to move on. She admits she knew what she was getting herself into, but doesn't mean that it hurts any less.

My advice to any of you thinking about moving on before everything is settled in your prior relationship is don't do it. You're just setting yourself and the other person up for a lot of heartbreak. I know there's other advice along those lines on the board here, so please listen to it. I let myself fall into the trap of enjoying the fact that someone was paying attention to me and wanting to be with me, which I've missed for some time, but I wasn't ready for it.

Anyway hope everyone is doing well, I've got a lot of catching up to do, and will try to get caught up over the next couple of days.