New and need help.

[Surfer]

Also you are getting great, great insight from Sandi. Read and reread what she says. She is the insight to your W's mind. However even though you will find Sandis advice so, so amazingly accurate you need to make sure you use this to understand why your WW is not your W and why she is acting how she is. Don't fall into the trap of second guessing, mind reading, obsessing etc. This will prevent detachment.

Surfer.