New and need help.

[Surfer]

1. Detachment is difficult. Yes it is a time thing just as much as effort. Think about it, you can't go from one feeling (any - love, hate, anger, fear etc) to another without time. This is a really big step change it will take a lot of time. You might need a month or more before you really feel stronger. But you will do. Just stay with it. Trust me on this.

2. Does it get better, honestly? Yes. It definitely will. I promise. You need to get to a point of loving yourself again. It will take time as at present you do not. You need to GAL l, gym etc.

3. Hope will not damage you IF you detach and love yourself first. You need to get to a place I think where you know you will be really happy with or without her. It will, again, take time. I feel I am within grasping distance of this and I haven't been doing DB for so long.

Keep strong. Don't let the Mrs or your kids see you feeling or being weak. You must look strong and confident at all times. Also you must be genuinely happy as much as possible. This comes with detachment and GAL.

Keep strong son. Keep busy. Don't overthink. Don't think about your W. Focus on you and the kids.

Surfer.