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Cherry

You are doing well
You are a strong young lady
An awesome mother
A person that a fool left today

Do me just one little favor...
Do not let this jade you...
Do not let this harden your heart...
Promise me that you will still trust and love...
Don't ever stop believing.

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.”


(((((Cherry)))))


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Cherry

You have done the right thing. 100%. Very, very proud of you.

Can you do some GAL things now? How about inviting your lovely friend (the listener) round for dinner? You might need someone to listen a little?

You should start to feel the burden lift now. He will regret this - he may never tell you but he will.

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Thank you guys. One of my worries SH is that I become a bit bitter or my already hard trust levels will go through the roof.

Surfer, that's an idea. I've had some bleeding again, could just be stressed but I'm going to go to the hospital to get checked and make sure my baby is okay. Family is going to take S and I may ask my mama to keep me company, this is a 180, I usually say I can do everything alone.

I'm going to keep myself busy though.


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(((Cherry)))

Pls dont go through this alone. Take up whatever offer of help you are given. Is your bff free to go for a checkup with you?

Just to reassure you, a little spotting is not unusual. I spotted till beyond 3 months I think. But good to go for a checkup for that extra reassurance.


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Thanks grl, I'm just worrying. I don't even think I've felt baby move today.

Wh came to me this morning. He was very depressed. He told me he had plans for suicide. That he will not be stopped and that he wants me to take care of the kids. He wouldn't explain anything. I did try to talk him round and said that I needed him to be a parent with me. And that he needs to be there for his children, he told me they don't need him.

I haven't a clue what to do. He pushed me aside and said no one could stop him


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Cherry, I wouldn't dismiss talks of suicide lightly.

Is he with you? Is there anyway you could contact him? Could you get his make friends?

I am so sorry for the stress you must be going through. Sound your bff out on this. I think you may want to tell your mil too.

It may be just attention- seeking behaviour. But better be safe than sorry when a life is concerned.

When you get the chance to speak to him again, you could tell him that you love him and the family. You dont condone the A or an open marriage but you're willing to work through these issues if he's willing to.

He sounds like he needs reassurance.

But you know what they say about having no expectations.


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Cherry - this isn't the first time he's said that. I'm still firmly in the camp of take it VERY VERY seriously having been suicidal myself in recent times.

Were you able to make sure that he has access to a suicide prevention line? It's been about an hour or so - is there someone who could call him and see if he's OK and perhaps get him a cuppa? (milk in after if I recall).

I am very much not an expert but from being on that side of the darkness know that each time you contemplate it or think about it you can get closer to the wall.

I hope he's OK and that my panic isn't warranted.

Keep strong sweetie. You were there for me in a time of darkness.


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Cherry, I am praying that everything is ok with your little chick. I am cross with your H for bringing you more stress and worry even after he has moved out. I know I should feel sympathetic towards him but he has brought a lot if this on himself. Off course this should be taken seriously but I think you should ask his family to keep an eye on him, your chick needs you now.

Take care ((Cherry))


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My ex played the suicide card with me several times. It finally stopped when the police were sent to his house for a wellness check. If you know where he lives, call the non-emergency police and tell them what happened this morning.

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When a spouse threatens suicide you contact the emergency service immediately and get him hospitalized ASAP!


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Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce
April '17-Letting go
2018 D busted
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