You know what, guys, such a smart and yet simple solution! Andrew this "slow response" of course, would have offered people an automatic time out. My h has always been brave behind a keyboard.

Ciluzen - I like your idea A LOT. I think I will send a text telling him that texting is not helping our communication and as we live under the same roof we should communicate face to face so that nothing is lost in translation.

I am also thinking of turning this whole situation around and saying: you asked for my thoughts on a lot of things. When you have a moment, please come and let's discuss things face to face. Thoughts on this???

I am thinking he is the one initiating this drama. And he is sending me pages of texts! And yes, I want to get him to a point where he can come and have an adult face to face conversation. He cowers behind that screen. I am curious to see how he'll react if I tell him to come see me when he can.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced