Always lurking, but don't tend to post that often. I was in a in house separation, and it was a total hell. You come home not knowing who's going to be in. It was like living with Jekel and Hyde - except nastier!
I know where you're heading, but you're not gonna fix him with a text. That grey hair on his head, well, that's your fault. That beer gut, well, that's your fault. Get the train of thought here? I think back to some of the things W said to me (you made me put weight on; I only started eating meals out when I met you; my t**s were less saggy before I met you; my tummy was smaller before we had kids etc.) and realise, that I could be the best husband a woman could ever have been, and I'm not saying I am, and I still would have been blamed for her aging.
You will have re-assured him, as I did with my W, that none of that matters, you love him etc., but it won't go in. Only he can realise that. I now don't respond to spew in a climb down focus, but meet it head on with truth darts and facts. They can't cope with that. Remember, you're taking it out on them (oh, the pearls of wisdom from my W are fantastic) and everything you do, be it good or bad, is just to get up there nose.
Stay safe and try not to let him rile you. He'll soon get bored when you don't interact, because that's what they want you to do, to make them feel a part of their life that you can't do with out.
Oh, seriously, a landline? Yep, every 11 year old boys dream present that!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
