HaWho - Stupid suggestion time. Can you accidentally and not on purpose dump your phone into the garbage disposal? The ease with which your H can contact you and you can react may be part of the unhealthy dynamic - trust me - I know how reacting without thinking can be unhealthy
Perhaps learn how to do semaphore - that way you and H will have to stand on opposite hilltops with your flags and send messages one letter at a time and only if the weather is clear - joke -
More seriously though - you are "very" available to him via text and being in the same house. Sitting behind a keyboard of whatever kind can cause people to write things that they wouldn't say in real life. It also creates an expectation of immediacy which IMO is one of the great failings of the modern world. I'm of an age when an "urgent response" took 2 weeks because you had to mail everything. Perhaps a more civilized time?
Keep strong - you are in a very tough place right now but we're all cheering for you. You are an inspiration.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
