Coly - there was a time I would have found your father's story odd, but not so much anymore given all that I know about MLC.

Bttrfly - that is a very stressful way to live. I am sorry. Like you, I am seeing so many control issues surfacing.

Well, I am in for a bumpy ride. There is so much anger surfacing. Guess I am due as it's been quiet for some time.

I sent the text as Job worded it. Within minutes my phone was beeping frantically with multiple texts coming through. He is REALLY not a happy camper now. He is furious. He tells me doesn't get my reply. He tells me that the last 17 years have been mostly unpleasant and that I do nothing for him. (I think he has forgotten that he told me it was all over and to leave him alone.) He is mad that it is taking me days to contemplate all this.

I did not respond at all. This is going to be one of those where no matter what I say he will twist it all. There is soooo much anger. He wants to fight. I can see that he is very mad at his lot in life. And I am still the cause of all his problems.


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced