Esame,
Thanks for popping in! I'm right there with you on the "I'm not sure if I loved him or the idea of him." I definitely did think that I truly did love him....and now there's just so much time and distance between us that i think my memories are starting to get distorted.

Someone gave me a piece of info the other day and I'm not really sure how to take it. I was told that h is miserable and has had some of our old friends rally around him to support him. They all think that I'm the bad person because I'm flaunting how happy I am and how I've moved on so quickly(????) (That's it in a nutshell)

So, yeah, I've been GALing like crazy the last year and my life is on an entirely different trajectory. I learned to really live life and have had so many doors open up for me. But now, I'm a bad person for living my life while my stbxh is suffering?? He was the one who exited the marriage because he wanted to be happy and have fun. he has shared with me that he hasn't been happy, but I'm so baffled by how our situation has been given new legs and reignited with me as the bad person.

Anybody have any thoughts on this? Should I have done something different? Is this par for the course? I'm not going to change, but I can't believe that this has become a "thing." What should I be doing now?

I've been sitting on this for a few days and just been scratching my head. I can't say that I've been Intentionally flaunting anything. I wonder if it's inferences from facebook or just the rumor mill? so confused.


Me- 30's H- 40's
T-10 M-5
I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15
D filed by H: September 16