Maybs - Pt 4 - where to now?

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Went out earlier with a woman that I work with for sushi and then we went to the mall and we like a lot of the same things and enjoy spending time together.

While I was out XW texted me. I didn't get it right away because I was busy and then because I have her contact info set to do not disturb.
She was asking if she could come tomorrow to get her things.

I asked what time. She said she's not sure because she is going to be working at her second job but probably between 7-8. Or she said she could come Sunday morning.

So I asked what time Sunday morning because as a young adult female I do tend to have plans on Saturday evenings.... and she said 7am. Which doesn't work for me either.

So I finally told her to just come tomorrow and let me know when she was on her way. I adjusted some plans (with the woman from work) to ensure I would be home because I have changed all the locks and she wouldn't be able to get in otherwise.

She said "okay. The only way I can get my stuff is if I have OW and OW's dad help is that okay?"

WHATTTTTTTT!!!???? Okay I have told her before that ow is not allowed in my home. For any reason. I don't care if there's a tornado. She can stand outside. And then also it's weird she's bringing her ows dad along.... I spoke with FA and FK and they both don't think ow dad knows the full story (you may recall ow is only 19) and they both think and I tend to agree that I should say something to him when they are here.

Anyways so I respond to her text and say "no. I have told you before she will not enter my home" to which xw got mad and said "I don't have a lot of f*cking options. I guess her dad and I will move everything and she will sit in the car"

I responded with "it's not my fault you have no one else to help you and as I've said she will not be in my home or on my property"

I just don't even know what to say to her. I don't care that she comes to get her stuff I'd actually prefer it because I want it gone. And I've set this boundary for me from the beginning and I'm sticking to it. I will call the police if necessary. She is not welcome at my home.

But what parent in their right mind is okay with their 19 year old dating someone who is 32 AND just got divorced. In part because the 32 year old cheated on her wife with their child and then that parents just like "yeah I'll help you move out of your xws house.......". Who does that...

Anyways. So I'll deal with that tomorrow. I'm not going to be mean I'll be pleasant. But I do think I might say something to her dad about their little affair

Overall had a pretty good day. I like spending time with this woman from work and we have recently realized how much we have in common and we really do share many of the same interests which makes it fun. We ended the evening by going to a bookstore and we each picked a book for the other to read. So I will probably read that for a while and then try to get some sleep.