No advice here, I'm not sure I can add anything, but I'm pulling for a happy ending for you, whatever you believe that to be. I would say it'd be with your family back intact, but if your W becomes someone you can't love any more, then I hope you find happiness post-D.
Good luck, and best wishes.
M 40 W 40 S 2.5 Together 13 years Married 11 years BD: 09/23/16 PA, then long Distance EA confirmed 9/30/16 Exposed A to OM's W 10/7/16 A ended 10/10/16
