Eating Life with a Big Spoon

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I think I feel better about texting something back Job. I like your idea.

The text he sent was sooo long. I missed a few other pearls. He tells me I don't contribute anything positive to his life and it seems with malice. (Wow, that is harsh.) He says he does everything for me, year in and year out and gets only negative in return. And he also asks that for once I be a reciprocal friend to him and tell him what on earth I are doing/trying to accomplish.

Why would he want to be friends with someone that he views as bringing nothing positive to his life? And really, what an opening salvo! This is like insulting a woman (and her mother) and then asking her out for a drink!!!

I will wait a few days and then talk to him about how he sees a reciprocal friendship. But, I don't think he's really ready for that. He makes so many low blows and I am still "the cause" of so many his problems. Part of me thinks he's just worried that I am plotting something and he's on a fact finding mission.

I will let him do most of the talking. If he asks me any questions, I'll probably just hedge and say I need some time to think about things. And this is truth. In general, I will keep it really short.

I really dread talking to him. In the last 2 years he has said the most outlandish things to me.