Eating Life with a Big Spoon

[Coly23]

Hi HaWho, I'm just lurking, catching up on your sitch (I have my own thread but haven't posted lately as not much going on!).

I don't have any advice but whilst I was reading about your H accusing you of having As and his insecurities a light seemed to go on in my head and I remembered a really awful few years when my Dad was constantly accusing my Mum of the same things. My Mum went to a Catholic boarding school and didn't have anyone else except my Dad, didn't go out socially so we were all very confused! Once he even found a random valentines message in the local newspaper and said it was to her from her OM it was so odd! I remember he was was so angry all the time and very irrational. I now realise he must have been going through his own MLC, I just never put two and two together. Funnily enough although he is sad that H left (he cried) he has been really understanding which is very unlike my Dad so maybe he recognises something of himself in what my H is going through...