Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

Oh dear. I fear I am not as detached as I thought....

I just had a call from W. We spoke for 23 mins. It was all genuine and if I am honest, I could feel myself falling back in love with her as we spoke [how mushy - what is going on with the real Surfer???]. Mostly listened to her and talked, not focussing on validation or anything of the sort really, spoke about kids and she agreed we should go to parents evening next week together. I presume she would say no. Really pleased with that.

My DB Coach has said to tell my W when she does something nice. Rather then just setting negative boundaries. So I sent her a text "Just wanted to say thanks. I like it when we have nice conversations." I haven't sent an message like that so far so it is a real 180. I will now sit back and observe. I get it might come across as pursuit but I will see what happens if she reacts well next time we talk I will try more of the same positive talk. If nothing happens, I won't do that again, unless there is something really nice in how we interact.

I presume this is the right thing to do - no idea TBH??

Surfer.