Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

Thanks Jug.

I am actually good at the moment. I might come across as in a dark place but I am not. I am just trying to work it all out TBH. I am going out lots, lots of GAL (which mainly revolves around pubs, bars restaurants through work and with friends - which is tricky as I not very good at 'just having one' (I have goals here but I need to stick to them LoL)).

I know all will be well as I have accepted that I can move on and have new R if I want one and I will be really happy. I could also be really happy with my W, but we both need to accept each other fully (and ourselves) - warts and all!

You are right on the custody side of things and I will have floated the same. I personally think they need to feel they are losing 50% of the kids and a much poorer day to day living standard in come cases. The financials will be the 2x4 for my W I am sure. I have always felt like a bank account. Perhaps it's time for the bank to default!!!

Agree with the holody thing too. I stupidly put a lot of money in an account for her (prior to D) for tax reasons and she is sitting pretty so until she has blown £75k she won't feel concerned is my view.

Surfer.