RBG, cheers for the positive comments on my thread.
It took time to get where I am but the big thing for me was getting out and expanding my social circle. I joined a meet up group and just got out there, tried some different things. I got to be friends with one of the trainers at my gym, he is originally from Australia so speaking English became the common theme. He is 12 years younger than me but I still go out with him and his friends. They bring a different energy to the air which helps carry you through.
The meet up group I joined is aimed at over 35's so again it's a different set of people, mostly all single professionals new to the area. Again for me, English is the common language but meeting people from different walks of life.
I spent time working on me, looking back over my marriage and seeing why I wasn't what I needed to be. For me, I realised it was a boredom thing. My W has always been passionate about her job but she also then hangs out with her work colleagues, I work in a completely different field and when we would go out they would always talk about work. Then she would wonder why I'm not all bouncy bouncy like she was....
I also realised it was a realionship of 2 rules, one for her and one for me. W was regularly suspicious of any of my female friends even my long time friends but when this 'friend' came on the seen I was accused of being jealous and controlling. I have been accused of controlling the finances when all I did was pay the bills.... W talks about being a free spirit that I have been suffocating but I wasn't allowed freedom in return, she always needed to know where I was....
These among others got me to the point of "I don't want this anymore". I want someone that we are on the same playing field playing by the same rules. It takes time and reflection on what you want for your future, and being here will help you with that.
Don't beat yourself up in this early stage, it will get better...
