Every day I find myself having to drag myself through the day and I find myself fantasizing that she'll knock on the door. I KNOW THAT SHE WONT THOUGH!
I want so much to just stop loving her and not have this pain each and every single day. How the hell do you guys move past this?....
RBG - Go back and read every one of your posts. They are consumed with analyzing every interaction with WW. If you were reading these posts as an outsider, what would be your advice to the poster??
Nobody is telling you to stop loving your WW. Don't focus on that. Focus on yourself. Your in pain and can't control the things that are causing it. What do we do about that?
Start detaching. Read everything you can on this site about detaching to know what it truly means. Start developing a confident you. That process has already begun with working out and losing weight. The wheels are in motion.
Continue to be a great father. There is nothing in this world more gratifying.
Think about why you are GAL and making these changes. It's not to impress your WW. It's to impress yourself. And become a MUCH better version of yourself. Change doesn't require you to change your values as a person (unless you feel they're off). Change is to further your own personal growth.
You may or may not reconcile with your WW. I can guarantee you won't without developing the better you. And that's no guarantee. The guarantee is that better you will be fully equipped for whatever the next phase of your life is...with or without your WW.
And you will move past the pain. I promise you. It takes time and work. You can handle it. Find your inner strength. It's there.
Strength and Honor.
Mules
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
