JimKao, is that something that you are successful with? And what is the end result? She is validated that her opinions of you are correct since they are not met with counter-information? She can openly blame you and you cannot even defend yourself? And that helps what?
I did the appt with xW yesterday morning. It only added more frustration for me.
I was hoping to cover some issues about assets to avoid another court date. xW chose to proceed to court and not cover it there. xW proceeded to discuss coparenting issues.
xW ironically suggested we need better communication. The irony being, there is an OFP in place!
xW stated that communication through my mother is somewhat working, except that my mother would bring up other subjects, including assets, in their discussions. Again, ironic considering it is always xW that brings up those issues. I have all the text message between them to prove it.
Somewhat out of the blue, xW brought up the letters I had written her after filing the OFP, that what I said in the letters contradicts what I said and did after that. I commented that "since we aren't going there, I won't comment, other than to say that I don't agree." Some serious confusion here, I haven't talked to her to SAY anything to her, how can that contradict? The conversations in her head contradict what I actually wrote? That's not my problem. My actions contradict what I wrote? Well, I did say I wasn't going to rush into the D proceeding, but then her atty sends me an email stating "xW says to proceed with the D." HER atty said that, I can only assume acting on feedback from her.
Here's another disturbing part... xW stated that she had no idea where we are on the legal battle. This isn't the first time I've heard this, and it scares me... xW has no clue how much her atty is dragging things out. Even more scary, how many things have been done by xW's atty without her consent? How many "opinions" of the path have been decided by the atty? xW not taking an active role in the process is her own fault, but it is sure costing me a lot of money!
Another clear sign of her intent, the second time I sent a letter was via email. She forwarded it to her atty, and got a warning from her atty that it is a violation of the OFP. And later said to my mom that I "got away with too much", meaning violating the OFP by sending her the letters.
It doesn't make sense to me, any of it. There is plenty more from the session, but I feel it is pointless to share any other details. I said very little, I cried a lot, I let her affect my feelings way too much!
We are set up for another session next week. I don't know what to think, what to prepare. After all the hurtful things she has done, considering there is still an OFP in place, there is only one person in the world that can make things right, and it is her. I have taken the high road through this whole thing, I have given everything to her, for her, because of her. I am not going to give any more. In fact I did some math, I added up all the legal fees that I have paid, all the concessions I made in mediation, the money she siphoned out of our joint account, the things she took from the house that she was supposed to leave... $95k so far. When is it going to be enough?
