Detachment is not the process of stopping to love someone. It's ok to stand back and love them, and even ok to think about them. To have hope. Detachment is when you don't live your life or dictate your every move on those feelings or hopes.
There is someone I dated, someone I loved. I still think about him very often, and in my heart, I still love him. But I am detached. I live my life, I have enjoyment in my life, fun, hobbies, activities, and my actions and feelings are dependent upon my own. I know he's most likely never coming back into my life, but I still hold love for him. I was hopeful he might come in the capacity I needed him to, but even during that period of hope, I detached and went on with my life, building my future for me and my daughter.
Detachment is also healthy IN realtionships. What fuels YOu as an individual. What makes you happy and excited and energized? Focus on those things for a while.
