New LBH with WAW/Possibly WW, help Part 2

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Recap: W told me ILYBNILWY and believes D is only answer, a week later, I find she has PA while on vacation, and continued to have EA over text/calls. I exposed A to OM's W, and it broke up the A and included W getting harrassed by OM, OM's W, and OM'w W's Friend. Harrassment has stopped. W and I have interacted much, but she's still acting distant and non-communicative.

Update: came home form work, W was on couch, just sitting there, I ask her how her day was with our S, single word responses at best. She was just sitting there, curled up, with the house a mess. I said, you look pitiful there, she said I'm depressed, leave me alone. So, I did, and she went upstairs.

Ate dinner with S, played with S, watched Peppa with S, bathed, and put S to bed, we had a good time, I love my boy more than anything.

Afterwards, I went to W's bedroom (old guest room), asked if she wanted to watch anything (no), do anything (no), talk abut anything. She said, only if you want to...I said, well, not really, then she said, we should talk about finances.

OK, I asked her to get out the papers she copied. I go through them, most of it's junk, but there's also substance in there. We go over it, I tell her the things she missed (I can't be dishonest about these things, don't ask me to), we talk abut how hard it is to break up 401K's, she talks about down-sizing her car.

Nothing is really settled at all, I guess she just understands the amount we need to break up, including the house, and it's fairly substantial.

She says, I just want to take it step at a time, find a place 1st, and go from there. I said, I'd like us to just slow down for a bit, and stay where we are. She says, for how long? I said, I don't know...a month before we start things?

She says, that's too long, I don't want to go to any Thanksgiving stuff with ur family, you can just take Hayden and bring him back.

I said nothing, and then just said, well, anything else? She said no, and I left.

Needless to say, I was hoping for better. She's still dead set on divorce I think. I know she's still unhappy with the end of A, and depressed, so that isn't helping any. I'm just going to try and delay, continue to detach, 180, and see what happens.

Thanks all, and good night.