Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

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Sara

Detach is what is needed...you know this.
In the past several weeks you have swung from wanting to D to loving him to all over the middle...and it all seems hinged on how he behaves...

You know that in DR that this is the key to being able to implement any strategy for DBing...

Boundaries require consequences. You told WH that you did not want other him speak of OW...what are the consequences when he crosses?
You getting angry is not a consequence.
Without consequences there are no boundaries

It tears at my heart as I am following along...I have been here since the beginning with you and you have DB'd like a champ, but as I read more of the chapter in DR for infidelity...I am more and more convinced, that you should be on the LRT and maybe even the "after the LRT technique...

Your WH continues to be disrespectful of you and continues to be wayward...Sara, I am worried for you.

How much can any person take of the wayward behavior, let alone a strong person like yourself?
There are consequences when one absorbs so much from behavior such as your WH...I learned this in my sessions with my IC as it related to my absorbing WAW anger...
He has continued with the same behavior over and over again...Read your thread...ther has been no change in him. It reads like a broken record.

I pray for you and your family...
I hope that you do not stand and absorb this disrespect and behavior for so long that it jades you...
The ball should be in his court...completely....unless I misunderstand MWD in the section for infidelity...the LRT...and the after the LRT.

Be well this evening my dear friend.