I've been looking at the title of this thread for several days now and it's been bothering me. I keep thinking, if she had cancer, or you had a child that was born with a disability, would you also be saying it was "a battle I didn't choose"? If she had cancer, would it have been a battle she chose either, or the disabled child chose? We don't choose the battles we must face in life, but I think for all the years you have been together you at least owe it to her to try and see this as a battle that isn't of either of your choosing but one that is worth fighting.
